things changed .

In life, we learn that ‘things changed’ and that it’s unavoidable no matter how much we desire it not to. And as we think about things changing, most of us find ourselves in some state of sadness, because there is always a part of our life that we wished was frozen in time… to forever remain as it is.

I mean, try to remember where you were one year ago from this moment that you are reading these very words. Maybe you were at school. Or maybe at work? Or even at a friend’s house, on vacation, or maybe out of pure coincidence you were in the very same spot that you are in right now. 

And now think about how much your world has changed from then till now. I’m sure you could not of anticipated it. I’m sure the amount of what has changed even has shocked you. How in one year, your world could be completely different from what it once was. 
People who once were in your life somehow manage to walk out of it as new one walked in to it. Even those important people who were the biggest part of life only left behind memories and casually come back into it to drop by and say “hi”. We realize as much as we care and love someone, sometimes we have to say “goodbye” to take different paths and to follow our dreams. And in this new path, you will meet new people who become your best friends and your reason to live.

The beliefs that once was instilled in us has gotten replaced by new ones. That each day, let alone one year, we experienced something new and learnt from them. Sometimes our beliefs are broken by depressing experiences, and sometimes it gotten stronger because life dictated it to be so. Maybe we believe in something completely new that we never even thought about before. 

And sometimes, even who we love changes. Sometimes the people who we were completely head over heels for, somehow managed leave, leaving you heart broken and losing faith in love all together. You may even be surprised how the person you loved so much managed to pull a disappearance act that would make the greatest magicians proud. And sometimes, the unexpected will happen as someone who randomly walks into your life, or even someone who you’ve know for so long, becomes the person your heart longs and beats for. 

And then look at yourself. Look at how much you have changed, not only by appearance and style, but as a person. That you manage to have gros so much that the person you remember one year ago is only a memory like everything else. That as your friends, family, beliefs, loves, and life changed, time managed to sneak up behind you and make you into a different person from who you once were as well. 

Things change. It’s a part of life just like breathing, eating, and sleeping. And the only thing we can do is enjoy and appreciate all that we have at this moment before it all changes. So years from now when we are looking back at everything and there will be no change left, we can smile that we took time that to make a great memories at every one of life’s twists and ‘changes’ as we grew up.

Dear ladies ,

Please don’t try to change to impress a guy. Don’t try to act or look differently from who you are so a guy can notice or like you as tempting as it may be. There are million of opinions out there on what a “perfect girl” is like, and I’m sure you’ve seen or heard at least one of them out but I plea to you not to try to follow them. I mean I heard a lot of them: she has to be athletic but not to manly; she has to someone who is smart and can actually talk to you about interesting things; she has to be funny; she can’t be to clingy but she has to give enough attention her guy; she has can’t be flirting with other guys but she can’t a buzz kill and not talk to anyone; she has to be like this or that.

And then there’s the whole thing about having the perfect body. Where you can’t be too big or too skinny. You can’t be too tall or too little. Where she has to dress a certain way that’s not too ‘sluty’ but not ‘ugly’. And so on and so on. But please don’t change unless it’s a change for yourself. Everyone in the world has expectation about what the “perfect person” is like, but most of the time the people they fall for completely surprises them. Someone won’t fall in love with you because you do a certain thing or look a certain way…but it will be because you can make them smile and feel a way like no one else can.

Wait for the guy who is worthy of who you truly are and not thing person who has changed everything they represent to the media and others opinions, because trust me when I say who you really are is worth it. No matter how ugly you feel about yourselves sometimes, don’t put on extra make up or dress a way you’re not particularly comfortable with to try to feel more beautiful, because you’ll never be truly happy with that. Be patient for the guy who makes you feel beautiful for being just the way you are because in there eyes you’re beauty lies in what makes you unique and every little thing in what makes you who you are. So don’t change, you’re already perfect the way you are and a guy in searching for you right now; Don’t make it harder for him to find you by pretending to be something you’re not by trying to change your true self.